Post by chukk on Sept 26, 2012 9:43:08 GMT -5
A lot of you have known me for a long time.. I also go by Teg, or integrity on other forums... Please read this and tell me your thoughts on the situation...
First I'm going to give some background on my current situation, how it started, the events leading up to the tragedy, etc. Then I'm going to ask for opinions...
So to start... On April 25, my daughter Ginny, Age 2, was taken to the doctor because she seemed lethargic and had a fever. At the doctors office I was told she was dehydrated and that she had strep throat. They gave her a shot of penicillin and sent her home on clear liquids and wanted me to bring her back that Friday to make sure the clear liquids were working. I did that, the doctor said she looked like she was doing much better and at that time didn't see the need to take her to the hospital for IV fluids.
That Sunday night, April 29 at 8pm, my baby girl had started to look lethargic. I asked her if she was okay and she immediately started to have a seizure. I called 911. She had never ever had seizures before. Got her to the closest hospital and on the way there the EMT tried to tell me she had not had a seizure. I knew better because I have them when my sugar gets low. While at the first hospital she had 2 more seizures while they were trying to put an Iv in her. At this point the doctors were convinced she needed to go to MUSC - Children's Hospital (suppose to be the best hospital in the state of SC for kids). By the time we got to the children's hospital it was April 30th.
During the course of that day that ran all kinds of tests on her, she was so heavily medicated that she wasn't coherant at all. The did a CT scan on her brain which showed that my baby at age 2 (just turned two april 2nd) had had a stroke! How does a baby at age two have a stroke? The doctors told me they wanted to do an emergency surgery on her brain to make sure the stroke didn't damage anything and to take a sample to see what could have caused it. So I called my mom and her and my two sisters ages 16 and 24, drove from Atlanta, GA to Charleston SC. They arrived around 11:30PM.
At 12AM, 30 minutes after they arrived we were all in my daughter's room when she had a big seizure that caused her to stop breathing. They ran us out of the room and grabbed the crash cart, but didn't have to use it. About 2am she had another one, stopped breathing and her heart stopped and they had to use a crash cart. After that they decided not to do the surgery, and they put her on some medication to prevent the seizures from happening all together. The medicine worked, she stopped having seizures. Later that day, a Social Services worker came to to talk to me, told me I had to find a place for my other two children to go or that she would be placing them in foster care because the doctors were convinced that some kind of abuse was happening to her. ( she was a disabled child, had no legs from the knees down, so we were more apt to abuse her than the other children. )
They took my children because I fought them, then during Ginny's two week stay at the hospital they found that she was born with an additional birth defect, one in the brain called the narrowing of the superior sag-ital sinus (the main vein that runs through her brain is too narrow, so when it drains it drains into her brain making it appear to be hemorrhaging.) Due to this find, on June 7th, the court through out the case and the judge released my children home to me...
Everything was going fine for a while and then all of a sudden the night of July 30th, Ginny was laying on the couch and she told me "mommy I don't feel good." I touched her leg and she was hot to the touch, took her temperature and it was 105, so I again rushed her to the hospital, only to find out that she had an ear infection and a UTI, who gets a UTI at age 2??? They gave her a shot and sent her home again.
July 2nd, a few days later, the baby-sitter got in about 5:30 in the morning, the time I have to leave for work, I had to go to work, I'd missed enough and was on the verge of losing my job. She didn't seem to be drunk or high and claimed that she had slept. I left work, at about 11 o'clock is when the phone calls started, the baby sitter called 2 times, I didn't answer, on the third try I answered but couldn't hear her, then immediately after I got of the phone, my neighbor text me and asked me what was going on at my house and then his aunt called and she told me there were ambulances, fire trucks, and police at my house and wanted to know what was going on.
I stepped off the floor and called the house phone immediately. The baby - Sitter told me that Ginny had said she was tired and wanted to take a nap, so she laid her down to take a nap, went to check on her 30 minutes later and she wasn't breathing and she couldn't find a heart beat. She brought her to the living room, started CPR called 911. A police officer who was at the house drove up to my job so I could follow her to the hospital because they took her to one I hadn't been to.
When I got to the hospital I couldn't see her, I had to talk to doctors and police. Finally they let me see her and she was on Life Support. Her sugar was through the roof also. They transported her to MUSC and I had to go home to my other two children the baby sitter was still at the house freaked out that she had to perform CPR on a two year old, she left and went to her moms, my oldest daughter (who has just turned four this month) went to her grandmother's and I called my mom and waited for her and my sister to get here so my son had someone to watch him while I went to see my daughter. At 8 o'clock DSS showed up at my door started asking questions. She left about 12am when my mom got to my house and we went to the hospital to see my baby.
They showed us her CT scan they did at that time and the one from the last time she was in the hospital, she absolutely had no white brain matter left, it was suggested that she had to of been with out oxygen to the brain for at least 45 minutes. At that time she also told us that they didn't think Ginny would recover from this. The next day were were told she was brain dead, and to get the family in to say good bye, so we did that and on July 4th, 2012 and 10:04 AM we said good bye to my baby girl
Meanwhile after her actual death, the coroner's office isn't telling me shit. I heard it from a friend who talked to the baby sitter's mother that they found fibers in the baby's nose and lungs suggesting that she was smothered to death! So, the baby sitter smothered her? We don't know and I don't want to believe that shit. NO ONE HAS TOLD ME THIS and I am being summoned to a coroner's inquest where a "Jury" gets to decide cause of death, I haven't see my other two children in 2 months because my parents are assholes, I might actually get to go see them this weekend after talking with DSS and them forcing my parent's hand to let me see my kids. My oldest daughter, Torrey just turned 4 this month, and my son just turned 6 months old and I have missed so much with him it's not even funny...
At this point I'm extremely frustrated and pissed off I've kept myself busy with work and school that I really haven't had the time to grieve properly, actually I don't think I've really grieved at all, the coroner's inquest is right around the corner next month and then I'll also have another hearing with DSS later next month where I'll be required to do somethings before my babies can come home.
This is my story, and I'm curious as to what everyone's thoughts are. This issue is very serious and close to my heart. I'm 25 years old and I've been through all this shit in the past year that makes me feel like I'm 60... (no offense to the elderly). I'm exhausted emotionally, and because of that I'm physically drained and depressed.
First I'm going to give some background on my current situation, how it started, the events leading up to the tragedy, etc. Then I'm going to ask for opinions...
So to start... On April 25, my daughter Ginny, Age 2, was taken to the doctor because she seemed lethargic and had a fever. At the doctors office I was told she was dehydrated and that she had strep throat. They gave her a shot of penicillin and sent her home on clear liquids and wanted me to bring her back that Friday to make sure the clear liquids were working. I did that, the doctor said she looked like she was doing much better and at that time didn't see the need to take her to the hospital for IV fluids.
That Sunday night, April 29 at 8pm, my baby girl had started to look lethargic. I asked her if she was okay and she immediately started to have a seizure. I called 911. She had never ever had seizures before. Got her to the closest hospital and on the way there the EMT tried to tell me she had not had a seizure. I knew better because I have them when my sugar gets low. While at the first hospital she had 2 more seizures while they were trying to put an Iv in her. At this point the doctors were convinced she needed to go to MUSC - Children's Hospital (suppose to be the best hospital in the state of SC for kids). By the time we got to the children's hospital it was April 30th.
During the course of that day that ran all kinds of tests on her, she was so heavily medicated that she wasn't coherant at all. The did a CT scan on her brain which showed that my baby at age 2 (just turned two april 2nd) had had a stroke! How does a baby at age two have a stroke? The doctors told me they wanted to do an emergency surgery on her brain to make sure the stroke didn't damage anything and to take a sample to see what could have caused it. So I called my mom and her and my two sisters ages 16 and 24, drove from Atlanta, GA to Charleston SC. They arrived around 11:30PM.
At 12AM, 30 minutes after they arrived we were all in my daughter's room when she had a big seizure that caused her to stop breathing. They ran us out of the room and grabbed the crash cart, but didn't have to use it. About 2am she had another one, stopped breathing and her heart stopped and they had to use a crash cart. After that they decided not to do the surgery, and they put her on some medication to prevent the seizures from happening all together. The medicine worked, she stopped having seizures. Later that day, a Social Services worker came to to talk to me, told me I had to find a place for my other two children to go or that she would be placing them in foster care because the doctors were convinced that some kind of abuse was happening to her. ( she was a disabled child, had no legs from the knees down, so we were more apt to abuse her than the other children. )
They took my children because I fought them, then during Ginny's two week stay at the hospital they found that she was born with an additional birth defect, one in the brain called the narrowing of the superior sag-ital sinus (the main vein that runs through her brain is too narrow, so when it drains it drains into her brain making it appear to be hemorrhaging.) Due to this find, on June 7th, the court through out the case and the judge released my children home to me...
Everything was going fine for a while and then all of a sudden the night of July 30th, Ginny was laying on the couch and she told me "mommy I don't feel good." I touched her leg and she was hot to the touch, took her temperature and it was 105, so I again rushed her to the hospital, only to find out that she had an ear infection and a UTI, who gets a UTI at age 2??? They gave her a shot and sent her home again.
July 2nd, a few days later, the baby-sitter got in about 5:30 in the morning, the time I have to leave for work, I had to go to work, I'd missed enough and was on the verge of losing my job. She didn't seem to be drunk or high and claimed that she had slept. I left work, at about 11 o'clock is when the phone calls started, the baby sitter called 2 times, I didn't answer, on the third try I answered but couldn't hear her, then immediately after I got of the phone, my neighbor text me and asked me what was going on at my house and then his aunt called and she told me there were ambulances, fire trucks, and police at my house and wanted to know what was going on.
I stepped off the floor and called the house phone immediately. The baby - Sitter told me that Ginny had said she was tired and wanted to take a nap, so she laid her down to take a nap, went to check on her 30 minutes later and she wasn't breathing and she couldn't find a heart beat. She brought her to the living room, started CPR called 911. A police officer who was at the house drove up to my job so I could follow her to the hospital because they took her to one I hadn't been to.
When I got to the hospital I couldn't see her, I had to talk to doctors and police. Finally they let me see her and she was on Life Support. Her sugar was through the roof also. They transported her to MUSC and I had to go home to my other two children the baby sitter was still at the house freaked out that she had to perform CPR on a two year old, she left and went to her moms, my oldest daughter (who has just turned four this month) went to her grandmother's and I called my mom and waited for her and my sister to get here so my son had someone to watch him while I went to see my daughter. At 8 o'clock DSS showed up at my door started asking questions. She left about 12am when my mom got to my house and we went to the hospital to see my baby.
They showed us her CT scan they did at that time and the one from the last time she was in the hospital, she absolutely had no white brain matter left, it was suggested that she had to of been with out oxygen to the brain for at least 45 minutes. At that time she also told us that they didn't think Ginny would recover from this. The next day were were told she was brain dead, and to get the family in to say good bye, so we did that and on July 4th, 2012 and 10:04 AM we said good bye to my baby girl
Meanwhile after her actual death, the coroner's office isn't telling me shit. I heard it from a friend who talked to the baby sitter's mother that they found fibers in the baby's nose and lungs suggesting that she was smothered to death! So, the baby sitter smothered her? We don't know and I don't want to believe that shit. NO ONE HAS TOLD ME THIS and I am being summoned to a coroner's inquest where a "Jury" gets to decide cause of death, I haven't see my other two children in 2 months because my parents are assholes, I might actually get to go see them this weekend after talking with DSS and them forcing my parent's hand to let me see my kids. My oldest daughter, Torrey just turned 4 this month, and my son just turned 6 months old and I have missed so much with him it's not even funny...
At this point I'm extremely frustrated and pissed off I've kept myself busy with work and school that I really haven't had the time to grieve properly, actually I don't think I've really grieved at all, the coroner's inquest is right around the corner next month and then I'll also have another hearing with DSS later next month where I'll be required to do somethings before my babies can come home.
This is my story, and I'm curious as to what everyone's thoughts are. This issue is very serious and close to my heart. I'm 25 years old and I've been through all this shit in the past year that makes me feel like I'm 60... (no offense to the elderly). I'm exhausted emotionally, and because of that I'm physically drained and depressed.